Rewire your thinking! Shine your light brighter in the world!

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Caribbean Sunset – 2017

 

I was talking with a friend a few weeks ago.  She was sharing how she had quit smoking earlier this year, slowly she’s started to reward herself with pampering and self care. She’s been putting the money that previously went towards cigarettes, instead towards massages, clothing and fabulous hair.  I was so proud of her and loved hearing about her doing that for herself.

Then she shared how she had been talking to another woman about this and that person had said something like this to her, “oh, are you going to become all high maintenance now?”.   A seemingly simple comment, probably meant to be funny….. yet completely loaded with judgment.   It left me wondering, why are we so quick to bring each other back down to whatever level we think they should be at to keep us comfortable?   It’s not like my friend has dropped everything and developed an all consuming clubbing habit at age 50 and was putting her family at jeopardy…  she was doing things within her budget and available time that made her feel good.   She was grasping onto a hope that she could keep on keeping on by making herself see how good it feels to treat her body good; to never want to crave a cigarette again, to honor herself for doing something that is so amazing.   We should have a parade in her honor! NOT tear her down.  Have you been in her position?

From the outside perspective it’s so much easier to see how a person can start to dim their own light.  We speak up, we feel good and if we don’t have a strong enough support system or our internal knowing isn’t strong enough yet in that area then once we face resistance we question ourselves.

I know I’ve experienced this so often.  There are many ways in which I’ve always been just a bit on the outside of what seemed like “everyone else”.  From day one, left handed.  Then an artist that loves art but never quite felt like I fit in with the artists…  I was a mixture of the smart kid, the athlete, the artist… yet not really completely any of them.  As an adult I married early and became a mom while everyone else was single and having fun. Then just as everyone around me was getting married and starting to have babies… I was a divorced and then a single mom…   Then a vegetarian for over a decade, then not, then the mom who cloth diapered, and then home schooled while also the mom to the social butterfly, daughter who loves everything about public school.  A stay at home mom who also works from home.  In virtually every area of my life I have to face feeling like I don’t fit in completely… and yet I’ve learned to see that this is where I find my superpowers… my uniqueness and what gloriously separates me from the masses.  A uniquely, perfect perspective that there isn’t an “us” and “them” or success or failure; there are are layers between.

 

What has helped me to find peace in this area?  Mentors, seeing people who are so different and wildly successful and happy.  Seeing my friends who stay home and raise their children and are so amazing at it.  Seeing other friends who run successful businesses and are so tapped into their callings while also raising awesome kiddos.  Seeing retired women who have so much fire in their bellies and are so full of dreams and life.  Seeing the friends who go to work each day and are unapologetic about their passion for living life on their terms.   There is no right answer, only what is right for us, our families, our purpose, our knowing.

Back to my friend who I started this post about, for her it is so perfectly fabulous that she is embracing this time for her and honoring what she knows she needs.  That is not to take anything away from the other amazing women who have no desire to have a massage or new clothes and yet are perfectly content.  For one person it may be taking time to simply indulge is music and solitude, for another it may be a weekend retreat or business conference, for me I light up from my soul on out when I see new places and get to take in beautiful scenery and share those experiences with people I love.  Pay attention to the moments you feel the most peaceful or the experiences you find yourself craving. Those things that can help you to access your own knowing.

What does it mean to shine your light?  To me it means to to honor yourself and trust yourself enough to speak up when you see a wrong, to speak up in support of what is right no matter how unpopular.  It means embracing and celebrating your gifts, your talents, the fruits of your hard work.  It means being a beacon of hope for others, being the truest version of you.  Cutting away the distractions, the stresses that hold you back. It means being so true to your deepest, wisest knowing that you can’t help but inspire others to be more true to themselves.

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For me, when I’m shining my light it means I’m honoring my optimism, my belief in the good in people, it means I’m a warrior for love and good in the world.  It means I’m taking time to get quiet and tune in, I’m creating artwork or writing. I’m at peace with my desire for me time and honoring my inner introvert that needs rejuvenating time.

What inspires you when you see it modeled in others?  What have you witnessed other women or men do that you thought was so badass that you wished you had the guts to do it?  How about simple gifts they have given themselves that you admire? Make a note of those things.  You don’t have to do them, but they are clues.  Start collecting clues. Start honoring when you feel in the flow.   Don’t forget to download my free gift to you here to take the next steps in stripping away stresses to help reveal the real you and help you shine your light brighter in this world that so needs your light!

Sending you so much love!

 

 

 

 

 

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could this be contentment?

 

I have a confession to make.

I have been experiencing something. It’s snuck up slowly.

I’ve tried to deny it, rename it, question it.

But friends, I believe it’s called Contentment.

Sunset 30 miles north off the coast of Cuba, taken this February.

After years of believing that I always have to be moving forward, growing, taking on more and more.  I’ve reached a place where I finally trust that no, right now for me;  I want to sit and bask in this time.  I don’t want to expand the time I put into my business, I don’t want to be involved in large numbers of art shows and networking and online classes.  I don’t want to join a bunch of mom groups.  I love my life right now.

After years of diligently looking at all my commitments and areas of stress, many which I wrote about in my ebook Finding myself in the Moonlight, I have added in breathing room and space into all areas of my life.  I’ve learned to trust myself more than ever before.  We’ve busted our asses for years and finally gotten to a financially free place where the only debt we have in the world isour home.  It’s truly freeing.  After years of having my head down and checking off an endless list of to-do’s I finally feel like I am in that place I prayed for so many times.

 

I’ll never stop learning (in fact I’m listening to a TED talk right now while typing this) but what I am getting better at is looking at classes and programs and knowing that now is not the time for most of them.  I’m still growing and learning and in fact my faith and spirituality is deeper than ever. Prayers and meditations and time in nature have all helped me to feel a contentment that I’ve never felt before. 

I share this to offer hope.  This may surprise you but I’m rebellous to my core.  I’m a rule following rebel I suppose.  I love to do good, I love to find good in others… but… the  minute society or people tell me that something should be done a certain way.. I question it.   It works though; I’m the happiest person I know.  I don’t feel like I need to do things the way everyone does them.   We all have areas we feel that pressure from. Here are some of the choices I’ve made that work for me (us) that have lead me more towards contentment:

  • moving 40 miles from the cities to a property where we can grow food, embrace nature, have a workshop to build and create in.  We are tucked into the trees and have privacy and also the rejunating energy of nature.  We get a whole floor to ourselves and the kids have their own bathroom, all in our cozy little 1500 sq. foot house.
  • getting out of debt.  We paid off $48k in just under 2 years (you can read about that here).  What that has done to our lives and the peace it has brought since though has blown my mind. We recently were able to take our kids on a week long cruise to Belize and also do a small road trip after we got off the ship and see the Everglades and visit a state park in the Florida keys.  The best part; we paid cash for the trip. It is so freeing to be able to plan and save and pay for a trip like that and come home and still have money in a savings account.  We worked so hard for so many years saving every penny, selling things and praying that I share that to say all that sacrifice was worth it.  
  • Homeschooling our youngest. Our oldest is in public high school and she thrives and loves it, I was faced last year with a decision to homeschool our youngest.  While I admit I wouldn’t prefer to have homeschooled my oldest, each kid is different and it has been the right decision to homeschool our little guy. And we LOVE it.  Just this morning in fact, sitting with him and watching him learn to read.  It’s one of the most rewarding things I’ve gotten to do in my life. Teaching him about living from the heart, music and the arts, endless time for science and real life experiences.  I am so incredibly grateful for this time, piecing together a curriculum and resources so I can connect him with learning opportunities that help him become the best whole health and knowledgeable person he can be.
  • Our 16 year old just got her driving permit and I’ve had a similar feeling teaching her to drive. It’s so special to get to witness and be a part of that growth. In a world where everyone’s first reaction is to go to the fearful side of this time, and yes of course that part is there too; I’m choosing to really honor the blessings that this stage of life is bringing for her and us.
  • This past holiday season I did something that I had never done before.  After years of doing holiday art and craft shows and in person shows, hauling all my work from place to place, getting sitters and paying entrance fees I turned them all down and trusted this little voice inside that knew I could do it my own way. (At least for now, with kids at home I have found myself losing interest in shows. There is only 1 that I love where the people and atmoshpere and crowd are so amazing that I may keep doing it, we’ll see – lookup 4Angels boutiques if you’re curious)   Instead I offered very specific items online including remembrance ornaments and sold hundreds of them. I also got a chance to connect with small groups of people in online artwork parties. During these parties I was able to show videos where I got to explain the deeper meaning behind my artwork pieces and really hear people’s stories and what exactly what people around them were going through and connect them with the perfect gift they could get for those they love.  It was such a rewarding and special set of parties and I got to meet so many beautiful women. Plus I got to do all of those from my home on my own schedule. 
  • January 1st, I deactivated my personal Facebook. I was finding myself having underlying levels of guilt, after cutting my friend list from over 600 to around 250 that helped a lot. Ultimately though I had to get really real that me being at home and having endless access to “check in” was costing me many minutes once I added it all up.  Now after 2 months after being away I can see that the part I was really reluctant to admit to myself was that there was a continuous feeling of static in the back of my mind. Anywere I was, anything I was doing; I always felt like there was something else I was supposed to be doing.  I don’t know if everyone feels that, but for me stepping away has allowed me to feel so present in my day to day life.  At some point I’m sure I’ll get back on but for now it feels like the right choice for me.
  • I don’t do networking groups.  Or mommy groups.  Here is what I know about me. My go to emotion is guilt. I really want to honor and connect with people once I let them into my world.  What can seem like a fun one time, meet new people networking experience for most people leaves me feeling flaky and unreliable after the fact.  I connect with people and then within my daily life I have no room for follow up.  I am not available to do follow up coffee meetups, business meetings in person or mommy activities.  So instead I’ve chosen to honor this time and know that someday I may want to dive back in and network and meet more people and really give it my all then I will do so with joy. For right now though I feel fulfilled with those in my life and the simplicity of our day to day.
  • I don’t do phone calls or in person meetings if at all possible.  Artwork is visual and for me sharing information via email or online works best.  I am choosing right now not to do a ton of in person events.  What I have found also is on my deeper, more intuitive based artwork projects I attain better results if I don’t have phone conversations with my clients.  That my sound strange but I hate the phone. I don’t like talking to new people on the phone and it drains my energy.  So knowing that I choose to keep my internal energy high and my intuitive energy at it’s deepest level by honoring them.  This will change at some point, but for me right now with a kiddo in tow and a routine we stick to it is what works best for me.
  • Choosing to drive used cars.  We don’t do car payments and all our cars (4) are paid for in full.  I was especially glad the other night (when I hit a deer a few hundred yards from our driveway) that I don’t worry about scratches or other life things that seem to happen out here. For the record the deer jumped back up and was fine and so was my car.  Someday we’ll get some nicer cars but for now, this works great for us.  I’m grateful that Bruce knows how to fix cars and keeps them all running.  I think the biggest thing has been to disconnect our feelings of self worth from the cards we drive. Yes, of course it is fun to drive a super new, decked out car and we had fun last year when we rented a car for a weekend and chose a new BMW suv. It was really fun.  But I don’t feel like less of a person because our cars are from both the 90’s and early 2000’s.  I actually feel great pride and think of the other things we have been able to do with that time instead of having to spend it making money to pay for upgraded cars. Right now, I prefer more family time.
  • Minimalism – we have gotten rid of so much extra stuff over the last few years.  6 months after getting married and combining our lives (stuff) my mom passed and over the next couple years our garage filled up with furniture, decor, clothes and candles that were hers.  It’s taken almost a decade but we finally feel like we have just a few really special things that help me remember her but don’t need to have our whole house stuffed with things.  We spend less time organizing, cleaning and moving things which has freed up not only time but also energy for the things we really want to spend it on.
  • We don’t have cable. We have a roku with netflix and amazon and a couple other channels.  We don’t dvr things.  So yes, we miss things that are on tv quite often.  Years ago I spent so much time watching tv and scheduling out what things would be recorded and learning about new shows but now it has faded.  But somehow I’m still okay.  This past year I’ve bingewatched; Heartland, Hart of Dixie, Hallmark’s Home is where the heart it and a few other shows that everyone else enjoyed years ago.  I’m okay with that.  They are coming into my life at the perfect time for me to really savor them and enjoy them.
  • Diminishing toxic relationships.  We can’t always completely avoid people who bring negativity into our lives but I strive to eliminate unnecesary drama or people I don’t trust.  Today I don’t have to spend much time or energy on this but years ago I had a list of people in my life who I knew I needed to move on from. I send them love and I chose to limit or cut them out out completely and it’s been life changing.
  • We talk in the language of love.  If you where a fly on the wall in our home you would hear my 6 year old talk about how his heart is exploding with love. How he happy cried in the car yesterday while looking at the sunset and again last night when we all sat on the floor working on legos with him.  We talk about our love, what eachother mean to us and share gratitude fr
    eely. Even while having a 16 year old daughter I love that we can talk so openly and validate feelings, our intuition and have worked so hard to make our home a peaceful respite in contrast to a sometimes crazy and stressful world. 

I share some of these things because I know so many people do fill so much of their day’s doing things they “should” do instead of really allowing themselves to schedule in breathing room, space and peacefulness.  We want to make the people around us happy and sometimes we let the rule over that little feeling in our gut that knows something doesn’t feel like it fits anymore.  Give yourself permission to honor peacefulness as much as success and knowledge in other subjects.  It will make every area of your life better.  I’ve experienced the death’s of loved ones, a divorce, multiple moves, and defining and developing my business. Then later marrying a wonderful man and making choices that move me closer year after year towards a life I really connect with (including working really hard to un-learn so much I’ve been tought growing up.) That journey has led me to now has given me this gift of a chapter of contentment.  I feel so grateful, even grateful for the really tough times that make me even more grateful each day for good times.  I know life will be full of ups and downs and times where I can’t wait to be around people and others where I again crave solitude and quiet, but for now in this moment…  it feels so right.

Sending you all love!

Introducing my new e-book

The new Finding myself in the moonlight e-book will be available on March 25th!

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Most women will go through a time of transition in life.  A time where you wake up and know deep down that it’s time for you to start finding what truly makes you feel joy. What feeds your well being. Why you are here.  A time to start setting better boundaries, figuring out what things make us happy and who we are when we’re not putting all of our energy into taking care of everyone else around us.  It’s not a bad thing to help those around us, the world needs us to help one another.  However when our own hearts are full first and we are helping and loving others from a place of overflow then everyone wins.

 

I’ve found a new way to include all the lessons, juicy insight, stories and links to videos and bring the price down to make it super affordable.

Presale is now available for only $19!!

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This e-book is basically a home study course that you can do at your own pace.

 

Click here to learn more about the downloadable pdf e-book, watch a video and more.

They wanted to know so I thought I’d let you know also

Good evening,

 

There is only 1 week left until the big launch of Finding Myself in the Moonlight!!

 

I’ve gotten a handful of questions from women looking to participate in the Finding Myself in the Moonlight e-course.  I wanted to answer them all for you here.

 

Q: You’re not a therapist, how do you know how to help me?

A:  True story, I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.  I don’t pretend to be, I believe that life’s answers come to us from many places, each a different piece of a giant puzzle. A therapist or counselor is a different piece than mine. I have something that some of them do not have, I’ve lived through finding my most authentic, soulful self, that’s why I feel confident in helping others do the same.  In my early 20’s I’ve gone from trusting myself, being confident and taking the world by storm, to later feeling isolated, unsure, angry and depressed.  I have lived the changes that come with moving across the country, working for others and owning my own business and having  (recovering) from multiple surgeries.

I’ve waded through the devastating waters of divorce, miscarriage and unexpectedly losing a parent too young. I’ve held the hand of a dear friend while she got chemo and I’ve organized an intervention for a loved one facing addiction.  I have people that cheer me on and “get” what I do and I have people that don’t like me, that judge me and that think being an artist is not a valid career.  If I didn’t figure out a way to be content and in love with ME then I probably wouldn’t get out of bed many of the days during these past events. Fortunately I’ve always been a seeker of answers and learning from people. I’ve used the lessons I’ll share with you to feel confident in my role in the world, my family and career.

Today, I can honestly say that I wake up 99% of days feeling content, blissful and grateful for my life. But be sure that my happiness is not because I’ve never experience hard times. It’s because I’ve survived, grown, soul searched, cried, and learned as I did the hard work it took to be the person I am today.  It’s my life mission to help share what I’ve learned with others.

 

Q: What does this course have to do with the moonlight?

A:  Technically this course has nothing to do with moonlight however symbolically this course IS the moonlight. When we feel like we are in the dark, in our own space with no one watching, I imagine this course and the women involved are each giving us the space to make changes, decisions and declare our intentions for our lives without the pressure of everyone analyzing as we do.  We will bring our best selves into the light again!

 

Q: I don’t see anything about Religion, if I am religious will I connect with this course?

A:  Yes, the beauty about helping people be their own most authentic selves is that there is room for each participant to filter all topics through their own Religion or spiritual beliefs.  I have created this course so that people of any religion or those who are not religious should all feel at home and welcomed.

 

Q: Will you offer this course again this year?

A:  At this point I’m not planning to.  I do have a vision to do a larger, more in-depth course called Dancing in the Moonlight. The later course will feature interviews with women who are living amazing, authentic lives. It will dive deeper into the areas from this course and we will also work more in areas of having a vision for our life, connecting with own light, honoring our truest calling, rising above the outpouring of drama and negativity that we are flooded with in our world.  That course will be a higher financial investment, so this current finding myself e-course is a great way to dive in and start the work in these areas at a lower price point.

 

Q: My work and home life schedules are never the same from day to day, will I have to be at my computer at a certain time each day?

A:  This is on of the perks of doing an e-course, you will receive the materials and then you can watch the videos and view the lessons at your leisure.  So you can make this course fit your schedule. This is great for people that work various shifts or are super busy.

 

I am SO looking forward to sharing this online time, heart and experience with you.   None of us need to do it alone!

Invest in yourself with 2 monthly payments of $35 each here

or pay the $68 in full here.

 

Class begins in 1 week on Sunday January 19th! 

 

**Noelle

 

 

Soulful You: growing through change

   As you contemplate this life decision, trying to feel if you are doing it right or wrong, being selfish or brilliantly insightful and wise.  Be quiet, listen to your heart.  It has been trying to give you the answers.  The answer won’t come through talking it out or from others.  This time, they will come from you digging deep.  Deep into that part of your soul and essence and wise self.  You may feel alone, but you are surrounded by people who are rooting you on from the sidelines.  We believe in you, we know that if we jumped in we would be telling you that we don’t think you can handle it.  We know better.  You got this.  Be still, connect to the earth, your soul and spirit and feel your truth!

 

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a grateful next step… clarity

I have had such a sense of frustration the last month or two.  I knew I was growing and in a time of transition so I tried to use that uneasy, feeling and keep it in the background and trust the answers would come.  I shed a few tears, had a few moments of total panic wondering if I’m crazy to think that I can make a living as an artist and in my own way, journaled, found new information to help guide me, prayed, learned, slept …. but then….

This morning I woke up with such clarity.  Finally!!   I’ve been feeling unsure if I want to continue teaching my art classes in the way that I have been, I love doing them but something wasn’t sitting right.  I finally know what it is.  The reason I do the classes is to help women, I love to see a spark occur in women that normally give all their energy to everyone else around them but finally take a few minutes for themselves.  I realized this does not belong in the business part of my life.  It belongs more in my heart area of giving back, helping my comminity and global sisterhood.  I have so many great ideas how I can move forward in teaching through retreats, and collaborating with others but for my own classes in my own studio I have some great things I’m working on that give me goosebumps.  I see a clearer plan for my artwork, prints, licensing, wholesale. A larger global presense and a stronger sense of my place in it all.   Sweet hallelujah.

More to come as this clear path ahead of me continues to unfold and come into focus.

Here is one of my newer paintings in my Souful Yoga Line.  For now it’s simply titled, “Being”.

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On the 12th day of Christmas!! Final Day

UPDATE:  I’m going to extend this last giveaway through Monday at midnight.

Well the giveaway fun is coming to an end.  After this I only have one more giveaway this year.  That giveaway if for a colorful, art calendar full of my artwork, that will be given away to one of the new “likers” of my facebook art page.   If you haven’t been over to my art facebook page there is no better time.  Make sure to like the page before Christmas to be entered to win.

 

So on this 12th day of Christmas I am giving away a fabulous repurposed pallet artwork piece!!  This winner will get to choose 1 of 5 designs.  See your options here:

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These are pallets that have been repurposed, painted and have all hardware for hanging attached.  Print is mounted to wood, size is approx 9″x12″.

I’ve had some requests to know where to get some of the items that have been given away. Many of them are available on my etsy site.  I will make a list here for those who didn’t win but would still like to purchase one:

Day 1 – Wine Prints – You can find my wine prints and artwork here.

Day 2 – Ornaments – wide variety available here in my studio.  Some themes on hand: new baby girl, new baby boy, girl, woman, wine, guitar, music, couple, family

Day 3 – Yoga print – You can find the exact print here or browse through the etsy site to find all the other poses.

Day 4 – Music Postcard prints – Here

Day 5 – Horse racing 8×10 print. Here

Day 6 – Hand Painted hammher –  You can find the hammhers I have listed on Etsy here   otherwise I have lots more in my studio that are not listed. Set up a time to stop by.

Day 7 – Greeting Cards – again, I have some listed on Etsy here.  I have more that I haven’t had time to list yet in my shop.  Set up a time to stop by.

Day 8 – Coasters – You can find the identical set of 6 here.

Day 9 – Yoga prints – all yoga prints, cards, pallet artwork, jewelry, posters are here.

Day 10 – Original Crossroads artwork – I’ve got a couple options for you, you can take a class and learn to make your own crossroads artwork.  Or by a print here.

Day 11 – Minnesota Wine Glass Set here.  Or Minnesota Beer Glass Set here.  (You can always request a different state or city)

Day 12 – Today – I have music themed pallets here.  Or the soulful yoga, crossroads and more here.

 

To enter todays drawing just leave a comment on this blog posting by Midnight Monday night (yes 3 days from now).  For those of you who have won and already received your gifts I’d love to hear your feedback  on how you like them, if you plan on giving  them or keeping them for yourself.  I always think it’s fun to hear the story behind things and where they end up, etc.

 

I hope you all have an Incredible Christmas, New years and are able to enjoy some time for yourself also.   Good luck on the giveaway today!!

On the 10th Day of Christmas

On this 10th day of Christmas I offer an original Crossroads Painting for someone to win!

Chaos on one side and calm on the other, she holds her head high. She’s classy, she’s got this.  This artwork is a great reminder to work to handle so many different life situations with such grace.  This artwork is 11″x14″ on canvas.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

To enter to win, leave a comment on this blog post by midnight tonight.   Make sure to follow this blog and/or join my mailing list to stay in the loop.  Only 2 more days left after today of giveaways, make sure to check back.

Have a great day!     Also, Renee was the winner of the yoga print set from yesterdays drawing.  Congrats Renee!!!  I have a surprise though, not only will Renee be getting the print set plus a bonus,  I’m sending each person who entered yesterdays drawing a free surprise!   Happy 12-12-12!!!

 

 

Noelle