There is an incredible power that comes from being able to quickly analyze a situation and make a decision. People worry about making the wrong decision, I get that. There are times where a deeper level of breaking down options and benefits, etc is needed. But let me say clearly: not making a decision is STILL making a decision! Think about that, by putting off making a decision there are often consequences to that choice also. I’ve watched many people around me become nearly paralyzed with fear of making a wrong decision so they don’t make them.
So yes, by being in denial that your kid is on drugs and not being sure what to do… that is doing nothing essentially until you DO SOMETHING. In a bad relationship and yet it’s just easier to stay because you don’t want to deal with deciding to end it or not? That is making the decision to stay every day until you make a different choice. There are times where you know you need to do something but it’s not the right time. Make a conscious to wait to make the choice. Awareness is everything.
I was sitting having coffee this week with my sweetheart summer intern Holly. She was interviewing me for a follow up to her internship for school. Then she was sharing about what she has learned. One point she brought up was that she had learned about managing risk, how business owners will have to make choices, analyze options, etc. She talked about how valuable it was watching me make the decision to close my studio in order to expand my business in other areas. How she watched me take into account the risks, the benefits and bottom line financial effects. It was such a cool treat for me to hear her tell me that. I’ve never taken college business courses so I wouldn’t have used those words but yes, I had to admit that’s exactly what I did. She asked me about how I was able to make such a fast choice. Here is what I said:
“I have watched people not be able to make decisions around me for years, it makes me crazy. I have a belief that people need to build that decision making muscle and remember even if they make the wrong choice then they can make another choice after that. There is also something about being very in tune with my intuition and my gut feelings about the situation. Many times there are clues along the way that we ignore but if we start being aware of them and making mental notes of them then it makes it much easier when it’s time to make a decision. Like with me and studio, I’m not against having a studio but for me right now I didn’t need to have that studio. Someday maybe I’ll decide I want one again. We’ll see”
This sometimes can also go hand in hand with knowing you need to set a boundary but you are afraid to.
See this post for my thoughts on that. https://noellerollinsart.com/i-give-you-permission-to-say-no-2/
What decisions are you putting off making? Have you been guilty of this? I’ve read and heard about many different tools for making decisions. One of my favorites is the 10-10-10 rule. Analyze how your decision will affect you in 10 minutes. Then how it will affect you in 10 days. Lastly, what are the benefits, downsides of your decision 10 years from now? Often what happens for me is that I’ll realize I’m make a big deal about nothing. So many of the decisions we make will have no affect on our lives even 10 days from now. Then you can also really train your brain to look at the big picture as well. You can also consider who will be affected by your decision.
When I was a project manager our goal with projects was to finish a project while staying within our budget of money, time and resources. What is the effect of your choice in each of these areas?
Good luck and happy decision making!